Dating in the great Millennial Generation has its fair share of challenges. Regardless of whether or not you yourself are sexually active, sex plays a huge role in our day-to-day lives. Sex is everywhere from movies and literature to social media.
If you are in college and have not lost your “v-card” yet, you might feel like an anomaly. However, a study published in the Archives of Sexual Behavior concluded that Millennials are more than twice as likely to be sexually inactive in their early 20s than previous generations. So you are not alone.
Whatever society might say, it’s not a bad thing to delay losing your virginity. Sometimes, being cautious about when and with whom you have sex can lead to much stronger relationships.
However, in an age when most people lose their virginity in high school, virginity can also complicate matters for those in search of a romantic partner. How do you navigate the college dating scene with zero sexual experience? Kean University’s Eni Asebiomo, the writer of “The Chronicles of a Millennial Virgin,” is figuring this out for herself.
As an English major with a focus on creative writing, it is no surprise that she is writing a book. In “The Chronicles of a Millennial Virgin,” Asebiomo takes her reader through the complicated world of a Millennial college student, and opens up about the trials of dating as a virgin.
In her confessional book about the trials of dating as a virgin, she takes the reader with her on a journey filled with different encounters, people and situations.
This is by no means your average book. Asebiomo lets her readers in on exactly how she feels. Aside from paragraphs of story telling, her novel has original poems incorporated throughout. “Everyone goes through heartbreak,” says the author, but every story is different and everyone reacts differently.
Asebiomo, for one, copes by writing. Pen and paper has been her source of solace for as long as she can remember. Growing up on Staten Island with siblings six to seven years apart in age from her, she was frequently lonely and felt as if she had nobody to confide in.
Without anybody her own age to relate to, Asebiomo turned to writing, which she describes as her outlet to deal with the struggles of growing up. By the time she was in college, this outlet had turned into a passion.
When asked about her inspiration for the piece, the young author reveals that it’s more than fiction; the story is rooted in her own life. Originally, Asebiomo says she had originally wanted to write a book about her mother’s stories of her own youth. But, as she puts it, “no one can tell your story better than you can.”
The plan for writing her mother’s story went out the window, but it wasn’t hard to find a new one. “I decided to just write my story instead,” the writer explains.
Since she plans on having her book end when she loses her virginity, Asebiomo cannot say when or where “The Chronicles of a Millennial Virgin” will end just yet. What she can say is that she already has some plans for the future of her project.
Of course she would love to publish the book, but this young writer has even bigger plans for her story. She wants to see her masterpiece on the big screen, or even in its own Netflix series. “I think trying to fit everything in one movie will make it way too long. So a Netflix series would probably be better,” says Asebiomo.
With graduation in December, Asebiomo is getting ready to move on to the next chapter of her life, outside of the book. After she graduates from Kean University, she plans to work for a while before she moves on to grad school. However, unlike many other students who will soon walk across the stage, she has some ideas about what she wants to do for the rest of her life.
Of course, plenty of young people have aspired to becoming authors. However, not many college students would think of becoming professional speech writers.
And yet, that’s exactly what Asebiomo has in mind for her own future. “Most politicians and people like that don’t even write their own speeches.” she says. “Someone else does it for them. I would be that person.”
It’s safe to say that Asebiomo has a lot going on in her life. Aside from her ambitions as a speech-writer, she’s the vice president of Kean University’s Black Student Union and a member of a sorority. And, of course, she has her story to write.
With no specific date in mind for its release, you’ll just have to keep an eye out for “The Chronicles of a Millennial Virgin.” It just may be the next book, movie or Netflix series sweeping the world.